A personal, engaging and interdisciplinary essay on the future of love and sex beyond romantic narratives.

We have broken down the old rules and we are now struggling to understand our ways of loving: polyamory, fluidity, ethical monogamy are new terms that define a new geography of contemporary love. But if it is true that the “couple” is no longer the only way to be together, are we sufficiently “advanced” to explore new forms of love and co-existence? If the mystery, stumbling, imbalance and agony typical of romantic love no longer satisfy us, if they even scare us because they are harmful, is it better to eliminate disturbing those emotions altogether? Toxic love is better diagnosed in advance, examined, verified, negotiated? And again, we finally have a lexicon that aims to identify and eradicate what does not work: gaslighting, love bombing, boundaries, toxicity help us to understand the presence of a problem better and earlier, but what if, on the contrary, they flatten every kind of relationship? And is it really possible to take the power game out of sexuality? These are just some of the questions that pepper this insightful book, which seeks to ask and answer the question: “How do we love today”?